Update: As I finished reading The Nights I Spent in My Car, the article moved me in way I want to reach out and touch someone the same way Anya has in this Reader’s Digest (RD) article. Where RD left off, I took the liberty of contacting Anya through her blog post: Life Seams …
Which brings me to this. For some reason, books and magazines hit the shelves a month late. But late as it may be, the Reader’s Digest [Asian Edition] February 2008 issue brings back plenty of memories with more than a handful of really useful and relevant ‘E Day’ articles . So much so I feel this desire to share with you.
On Matters of LOVE 7 Secrets to a Sexy Marriage | How to Pick A Perfect Partner | What Would You Do For Love?
WHEN YOU ADDRESS YOUR OWN FLAWS AND SEEK THE BEST IN YOUR SPOUSE, MAGIC HAPPENS
Out of 7 points, one stands out and I quote, “It’s tempting to blame your spouse when you feel angry, disappointed, bored, betrayed or stressed out about your marriage. Then it’s a short hop to seeing your mate as the one who must change for the marriage to improve. Trying to improve your spouse puts him or her on the defensive and casts you in a dreary role. The result? Nobody changes. Nobody takes responsibility. Everyone is unhappy. And making your spouse the bad guy means ignoring the 90 per cent of him or her that’s good. The true fix: Change yourself. When you address your own flaws and seek the best in your spouse, magic happens. Optimism increases. Your spouse feels better because he or she feels appreciated, not chastised. And you both feel motivated to change in ways that lead to even more joy.” The article also talks about the Japanese philosophy of imperfection, wabi sabi (“wah-bee sah-bee”).
Besides love, two other articles The Common Disease Killing Our Children and Million Dollar Advice caught my eye.
When four year old Darryl Heng had a runny nose and fever one evening in March 1999, his father wasn’t too concerned. Kids get the sniffles before taking Darryl to the family doctor who was prescribed the usual flu medication. When his condition did not improve, Darrryl was given antibiotics but he broke out in rashes over the next few days due to an allergic reaction to the drugs. A blood test did not reveal anything unusual. When Darryl became breathless one evening, his father brought to the National University Hospital where X-rays showed he had pneumonia. Doctors explains his condition was further complicated by a collection of pus outside the lungs. Darryl spent 21 days in ICU and was hooked up to more than 13 drips. He needed morphine for the pain. Just 28 days after his first flu-like symptoms appeared, Darryl died of complications from pneumoccal disease.
It is every parent’s nightmare to lose a child. Ignorance is not bliss. Page 30 has more real life report of another child Becky Leong where timely surgery saved her life.
How to be a Millionnaire Most of us have one time or another been curious how millionnaires are made. I’ve only dreamt about ways to make my first million and the road to being enlightened has been an interesting one.
According to Page 46, “The Biggest $ecret? Stop spending. Every millionnaire we spoke to has one thing in common: Not a single one spend needlessly. Real estate investor Dave Lindahl dives a Ford Explorer and says his middle-class neighbourhoods would be shocked to learn how much he’s worth. Rick Sikorski can’t fathom why anyone would buy bottled water. Steve Maxwell, the finance teacher, looked at a $1.5 million home but decided to buy one that was half the price because “a house with double the cost would not give me double the enjoyment.”
No kidding! Talk show host Tyra Banks calls herself Queen of Cheap and keeps perfume samples from magazine ads in her purse for quick touch-ups. Sara Blakely, founder of the $100 million shapewear company Spanx, gets her hair trimmed at Supercuts. And Warren Buffet, the third richest person in the world, according to Forbes, lives in the same Omaha Nebraska, home he bought four decades ago for just $31,500.